It’s tricky to do in any overt way as we interact with people with this pathology more than we realize.
Anytime you have someone who devalues and gossips about the person who has displeased them — an all too common behavior — you run the risk of being a target if you directly address any ‘off’ behavior, disagree with them on any issue, or threaten their fragile ego by being better than them (in their minds) in any arena.
So, as you can see, it’s almost impossible to not tangle with them at some point because they have issues, inevitably, with everyone such is their hatred for others. When you factor in the social alignment (peer pressure/group think) they create by having this very forceful and manipulative nature — as no one wants to be targeted and Narcissists tend to have compelling personalities which fosters followers — you run a great risk of putting yourself on the receiving end of an effective smear campaign with any encounter. It is always best to avoid them as much as possible, going No Contact whenever possible or Gray Rocking when it isn’t. (See the next post on how to “Gray Rock”)
To avoid the dangers these disordered people pose to every aspect of our life we are compelled to stifle much of what we feel and hide our repulsion in the moment but take active steps to avoid the person at all costs once we recognize what we are dealing with. To know who to avoid it is critical to our well being to learn everything about red flags, and to always exercise critical thinking to properly discern dangerous behaviors. The practice of firm boundaries is the best protection there is. The issue comes in when we are raised by Narcissistic people, or have been abused by Narcissists in our life, we can adopt attitudes of getting along to survive and not recognize boundary violations because the Narcissist’s in our life have obliterated them on so many levels we adapt with poor coping styles that work against us in the long run.
So, it’s a two-fold tip:
1) learn to absolutely identify red flags, and
2) exercise firm boundaries once you do.