By Corinna Kennedy, from the Question: How did you get closure and find peace after the relationship with your ex with NPD ended? I went strictly no contact, but my lingering anger is from not having a voice to confront him about his covert abuse (for my sake, not his).
My closure is knowing the why of what happened. It explains everything, from 26 fake years to 3 brutal years. Knowing he’s a pwNPD sets me free. I don’t need an explanation, he’s proven very well that whenever his lips are moving he’s lying, he’s proven that every gesture is an act, he’s shown me his true face and his true nature beyond any doubts. The only thing I struggled with at first was theCognitive Dissonance which I had no control of and the C-PTSD that crippled me functionally and mentally.
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The Cognitive Dissonance was hard because I knew what I knew, it was my heart memories from almost 3 decades and half my life living in an idealized reality that yearned for relief from the pain so it could be comfortable and happy again.Healing the C-PTSD helped move me out of my Cognitive Dissonance. The C-PTSD was a physical issue I had to overcome, my brain was altered by the length and extremeness of the abuse, but I’ve been working on that with photobiomodulation, nootropics, Lion’s Mane, and neurotransmitters, along with mind training with MindValley.
I also am now working to adopt the practice and state of radical forgiveness. Science has proven the thing that holds the brain in trauma, stopping it from healing, is not letting go of hard feelings. Negative feelings actually down-grade the alpha wavelengths which are critical to our mental, and so then also our physical, state of calm and relaxation. There are scans showing that forgiveness amplifies the Alpha waves, and then the whole brain begins to function and again and sets the platform for the C- PTSD to resolve as the brain begins to function better. I will be adding Gamma to my photobiomodulation in the next few months, at present, there are still areas with atrophy and other areas swollen and the whole brain engagement of Gamma just makes the brain hurt because it can’t take those added waves yet. But as everything else I am doing heals all areas, adding Gamma will take my brain function to a whole other level, this will accelerate healing exponentially once the brain is ready for it.
So, not only do I feel closure, I feel like the world is my oyster and I’m seizing the day.
Attitude determines altitude and I’m not letting someone else’s disorder shape my reality anymore. I not only have closure, I see it all as a gift to finally see all the work I have to do and what I really want for myself in the short, sweet window of time that is our life.